Thursday, December 30, 2010

Six Months of Shopping in My Closet

"How Much Did You Say That Self-Improvement Was?"
Since the last time that I blogged about personal finance, a lot of things have happened. I left the classroom to work at the network level. I completed a costly degree in Educational Administration. I started taking writing classes and Spanish classes consistently. I consider all of these changes or decisions to be short-term and long-term personal and professional investments. So the costs of paying back graduate loans and the costs of tuition do not get me down. If, however, there were a reparations fairy with well-conditioned locks that viewed the cost of schooling and training as our 21st century version of the "40 acres and a mule" that we never received on this side of the Atlantic back in the day, I would happily accept all loan forgiveness plans and dissolution of mandatory payments.

I'm just sayin....

Where Did All of My Money Go?
What I have noticed, though, is that in my spirit of self-improvement, I have found myself also justifying purchases to stores for outfits, shoes, and accessories-albeit cute- because of the nature of my work, because it was on sale, because I "deserved it", because, because, because....

I also found myself charging lunches for $10 in addition to $5 breakfasts because I was on the run, because I so hungry by the time I ate, or because that was what my co-workers were doing. These credit card charges were in addition to whatever incidental purchases I made in cash: mid-morning runs for tea, cookies, bottled water, blah, blah, and blah.

Because. Because. Because.

I opened up my most recent credit card statement and saw that I had racked up $1,800 worth of debt in the last three months. After I subtracted the costs of tuition, car repairs, and my $16/month gym membership, I was still left facing $900 of credit card debt.

But where did all of the money really go?

Most obviously, the clothes went on my back. And the food, especially the dishes with rich sauces and generous portions contributed to the expansion of hips, booty, and thighs.

"My Family Thanks You!"
But here is the most obvious, yet unspoken place to which my money went: a stranger's dream and a stranger's family's dream of financial security, early retirement, private education from their children, that hip-replacement surgery, or that teeth-whitening treatment not covered by insurance. Whatever. And conversely, my spending to finance someone else's dream has by its very nature prolonged the time that it will take to realize mine.

Kakra, Kakra, The Chicken Will Drink Water
So with that, I have brushed off the old blog and would like to use this as a forum for accountability--for us to start thinking about how our impulse purchases keep us for getting one step closer to investing in something that brings more meaning.

I will save you from having to read until the end of the story because they all end the same: there will always be something cute to buy if you go shopping. So, I have decided to start shopping in my closet and start using the money that I had been spending on clothes toward funding my trip to Costa Rica in August for a Spanish class or towards a down-payment for a condo(or whatever else I may want to do by that time).

Mindful Budgeting Equal Success
I refrain from cutting out buying books or doing my nails monthly for three reasons. The first reason is that I am self-aware and know that eliminating those things from my budget would make me feel deprived. Secondly, the cost of a used book on amazon + shipping and a midweek pedi once a month are a fraction of what I have been spending on clothes yet provide me with such a sense of joy and abundance. Finally, I want to succeed. Success for me is identifying and implementing small changes over a period of time, not completely upsetting the ebb and flow of my life.

"You Talking to Me?"
Actually, I am. What are you thinking? What small shifts in spending can you make toward achieving your meaningful goals and aspirations? In the next entry, we will create SMART goals in order to frame our financial planning. SMART goals can help us become better, stronger, bolder, and more deliberate, and more courageous in all aspects of our lives...

Monday, January 25, 2010

You'll Have Enough Time to Sleep When You're Dead!

New Year, Same SH@t?
The answer to this is a hopeful "no" for many of you as I have decided to revisit this blog with a new purpose in mind. For a year or two, I have been writing about money. How to save it. Where to get it. How to stretch. From whom to hide it. The history of financial success and enterprise amongst our people.

I have learned a lot from all of you and I am hoping that you picked up a couple of things from me because I have been inspired to change. A new turn in my personal development. During this bend of my journey, I am hoping to use this space as a virtual empowerment club. A safe-space where we can dream really big (or small), but absolutely and always meaningfully about what we want out of life-- whether it be financial, personal, health-related, and professional.

If you want to do any of these things with me, please write your name next to the number! Please also generate your list, so I can write my name next to ours!

You'll Have Enough Time to Sleep When You're Dead!
1. Get a Brazilian wax.
2. Play mass in somebody's Caribbean
3.Write and publish children's books.
4. Be in love.
5.Write and direct a small play.
6. Have my own home and entertain guests there.
7.Become fluent in Kreyol and Spanish.
8. Open an all-girls school.
9.Become a millionaire through saving and investment.
10. Be interviewed on television.
11. Learn the damn turns in salsa without getting dizzy.
12. Have a ladies' night once a month
13. Have a small exhibition of my photography.
14. Sleep in a tent in the woods for a night.
15. Go to a Beres Hammond concert
16.Be a good friend/confidant.
17. Have thighs of steel (think a not-to-so-diesel-Serena)
18. Become a vegetarian.
19. Go to strip-club
20.Go to London
21. Bed-n-breakfast in the mountain here or abroad.
22. Do a colonic.
23. Fast for 7 days.
24.Meet Michelle Obama and have lunch with her.
25. Visit all of the hubs on blackness throughout Latin America
26. Learn to drive on the highways with confidence.
27. Take a cooking class.
28. Learn Swedish ( or somebody else's) massage.
29. Pose nude for an art class (after #17)
30.Take pictures of black folk in the South and interview them about their lives.
31. Do a family tree project.
32. Learn to say "yes" even though I am scared.
33. Learn when to say "no" when I really need it.
34. Take classes in Caribbean, African, Afro-Latino and African-American women's lit.
35. Open up a UPS store.
36. Have a flea-market stall.
37. Get a black belt in Tae Kwon Do
38. Go to Hot Yoga classes.
39. Wear a really ugly wig and pick-up random men in a bar for kicks.


It's a Living, Breathing Document
Just start writing. Nothing is too insignificant. Let's share our lists and our support to actualize as many of these dreams as we can.